VICTORY OVER SHAME

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There is no formula or 3 step program to be healed or "cured" of same sex attraction or any LGBT issue.  Our help comes from God Himself, through Jesus Christ, His son. 


As a Christian, I still struggled with desires and thoughts of same sex attraction.  God can do anything and He could have instantly healed me or anyone struggling at any time He chooses but sometimes healing doesn't come right away or at least doesn't for a while.  Sometimes, God is doing a deeper work in us and we need to learn something before we can appreciate and embrace freedom.


I know how painful, depressing and frustrating SSA is.  The struggle of wanting and desiring what you know is not right.  I know how it feels to battle the feelings inside, the longings, the self rejection felt and intense lust.  I understand how much confusion can come about asking why would God allow a desire for something you know is wrong.  I've been there.  I know the dark feelings that arise inside.  The torment and confusion.  Feelings of humiliation and embarrassment and deep SHAME and guilt.  It is a very painful struggle. But, the freedom that is possible in following Jesus Christ is so radical that you cannot imagine living in such freedom.  There is satisfaction and peace available through faith in Jesus Christ.  He does the impossible.


I have had miraculous healing in my body from disease, fever and other conditions  and have seen others healed so I know instant healing is possible.  However, with same sex attraction, for me it has been a process and it may be for you as well.  However, there are testimonies of instant healing. When you take the hand of Jesus, you go on a personal journey together and He works on each issue in our lives as He see's fit.  FOR A PURPOSE.  It's never to let us suffer needlessly, God has a plan and is working in us to achieve what He wills to use us for.

 

Even in the midst of your struggle, you can have victory if you turn it over to Christ and allow him to work in your life.  The victory for me is that I have a life full of blessing and peace with God.  I know that according to His promises of salvation, I am saved and on my way to Heaven when I leave this earth.  Jesus said that in this life we would have trouble but to take heart because He has overcome/ conquered the world (John 16:33).  That means, He already has victory over death, sin, suffering, pain and darkness.  I could have chosen another path away from God but I know that that path would have taken me into darkness and pain and eventually hell in separation from God. 

 

Jesus saves us and leaves us here on earth for a reason, to bring others into His Kingdom and into the light.  So that others will know the goodness of the Lord!  So that our victories and brokenness can reveal the wonderful works of God and His great mercy for sinners.  Anyone who repents and has faith in Jesus Christ will be saved but those who reject Him will be judged and condemned.

 

More than knowing that same sex attraction can be conquered, I want you to know that Jesus is alive and real and beckons you to turn to Him.  He's not a fable or a story people made up, he's alive and I've seen Him and interacted with Him.  Do you want to see Jesus?

 

"Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them. And I will love them and reveal myself to each of them." John 14:21

 

What He said here is true, He will reveal Himself to you.  I have seen many of my friends go from not believing in Jesus and even mocking me to being completely amazed when He reveals Himself to them.  He will not turn away anyone who seeks Him.  I want you to know and experience this above anything else. That is the beginning of your healing process.. if you are looking for a step one, there it is... seek Jesus with all your heart from this moment forward, how you may ask?

 

Make a serious effort to seek, open your heart to Him:

1)  Call on him.  Find a place where you can be alone to pray and talk to Jesus.  Prayer is not something fancy done in church, its conversation with God.  It's talking out loud to him in your sincere questions and wonderings.  Ask Jesus to speak to you.  (Matthew 11:28-29)

2)  Be on the lookout.  When you call on Jesus with a sincere heart to know Him, He will answer.  Have an attitude of one who is waiting on something or someone.  Be alert to the ways that God may be speaking to you, expect the unexpected and the supernatural.  (James 1:6)

3)  Get an easy to read Bible.  I suggest a New Living Translation for those seeking Jesus.  It's more clear than other translations.  Read the book of John, it's a great place to start but wherever you feel led to start, do so. 

4)  Find a Christian who will pray over you that the Holy Spirit will reveal Jesus to you.  (Ephesians 1:17)

5)  I find music to be very powerful and moves the soul.  Find worship music.  Itunes has a Christian music genres tab you could look through and pick a couple songs.  Lauren Daigle, Bethel music, Julie True, Kari Jobi are great artists to check out.

 

Once He reveals Himself to you, He will take you on your own journey.  He will speak to you on your own struggles and show you ways how you will overcome them.  Stay in prayer, reading the Bible and take time to worship Him often.  This is where you must begin your journey, with a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

Now.... I can show you some of the keys God gave me along the way. 

 

Confession-

For a couple years, the Lord began to draw me to confess to others.  Notice it was the Lord moving me to confess in His timing. This was very, very difficult at first.  The first time I confessed were to a pastor and wife I knew in England.  I met them at their home and I cried my whole way through a confession of my struggle.  I'm not sure how much they understood me to be honest because I was a crying mess and half my words were said in despairing cries.  Regardless, they held me, wiped my tears away, prayed over me and assured me it was going to be okay.  The next time I confessed was to my husband a year or two later.  The devil had filled my head with all sorts of lies about the reaction my husband would have and I was in a constant state of fear of confessing to him but Jesus was leading me to do so.  When I shared it with him, again in tears, my husband was understanding and loving and assured me, I would be okay and we were okay.  All the lies satan was telling me and I was telling myself, were just that, lies.  Ever since, I have confessed to many others as the Lord has led to and all have been gracious and understanding this far.  I believe a healing process began with that first confession.  

This direction the Lord gave me can be found in the Bible in the book of James.

 

13 Are any of you suffering hardships? You should pray. Are any of you happy? You should sing praises. 14 Are any of you sick? You should call for the elders of the church to come and pray over you, anointing you with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 Such a prayer offered in faith will heal the sick, and the Lord will make you well. And if you have committed any sins, you will be forgiven.

16 Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. 17 Elijah was as human as we are, and yet when he prayed earnestly that no rain would fall, none fell for three and a half years! 18 Then, when he prayed again, the sky sent down rain and the earth began to yield its crops.  James 5:13-18

 

Confession of sins is different from "coming out."  Today's coming out confession is saturated with pride, rebellion and disobedience to God.  Defiantly, people are coming out and making a statement that their sin is acceptable and they will not be ashamed of it or repent to God. 

Friends, this is taking a stance in rebellion against God and won't end well.  God sent Jesus to die a horrid, vicious death on the cross to pay for our sins.  He does not want you to embrace your sins, He wants to rid you of them!  His blood poured out from being whipped, stricken, beaten and nailed to a wooden cross paid for those sins, if you will receive His offer to pay for them.  If you reject His sacrifice to pay for your sins, then you are on your own... and you will not fare well, I promise you. 

Luke 10:16-   Then he said to the disciples, “Anyone who accepts your message is also accepting me. And anyone who rejects you is rejecting me. And anyone who rejects me is rejecting God, who sent me.”

 

Be aware of oppressing spirits-

The Lord began to teach and show me dreams where demonic spirits would either attack me or reveal something of how they were operating in my life.  The Lord led me to break ties with demonic forces, break generational curses, the power of the blood of Jesus and understand how the seducing spirits kept me in bondage.  I am still learning but I have cut ties with these spirits and stronghold's have been broken at this point.  There are deliverance ministries and great resources to look into for more help with deliverance and closing the door to seducing spirits.  Many deliverance ministers have written books (one is Derek Prince) and explained how these demonic forces gain an entrance into our lives, those doors to demonic activity must be shut.  I have personally felt demonic forces leaving me as I've been engaged in prayers of deliverance.  I know that some aren't comfortable with this but the word of God tells us plainly in 1 Timothy.  Paul warned timothy, who was going into ministry,  about these spirits in the latter times.

 

1 Timothy 4:1 - Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils

 

 We must be aware of our enemy's schemes.  We must pray and ask God to show us how to guard ourselves.  We must not be obsessive with the enemy but we must be very wise to the way the enemy works and gains a foothold.  Steer clear of anything clearly demonic.  The Lord tell us that we are not to be involved in sorcery, magic, spells, tarot cards, palm readers, horoscopes, etc.  Those are doors to the demonic.  Stay away from them.

 

Prayer, reading the Bible, worshiping and spending time in worship with true believers.  All this is vital to ANY believer in Jesus Christ.  Jesus warned us to stay alert and pray that we would not fall into temptation because our body (flesh) is weak. (see Mark 14:38) 

Prayer is especially powerful when combined with fasting.  Although I would like to fast more often, the times that I have, the Lord has brought great breakthrough when I have.  It is powerful and something that should be looked into further.  There are some great books on fasting by Christian leaders that are great resources for more information.  I suggest looking into it before trying it to truly understand fasting and have your heart positioned and focused in it.

Here are some more tips and practices that have helped me;

 

a) Stay clear of anything that stimulates lustful desires-

b) keep away music with seductive lyrics. protect your brain.

c) watch out for certain stores (such as Victoria's secret where the spirit of lust is rampant)

d) don't read or watch sexual or seductive movies or books

e) be careful of drawing too close to overtly sexual or seductive individuals

f) guard your eyes - Job (31:1) said that he made a covenant with his eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.  That is something we must do as well with anyone we come across.  It may take us some time but we strive towards looking with purer eyes.

 

Remember that I said seducing spirits are being unleashed in these end times we live in, be wise.  Realize what seduces you and stay clear from it as much as you can.  There are times when I'm in a situation that I cannot escape a song or situation in a store or restaurant and I just try to distract my brain best I can.  These seducing spirits will try to gain access again and seduce you to old ways of thinking and desires.  In the beginning of my walk with Christ, I would sometimes go through seasons of listening to my old secular music and secular artists that I enjoyed.  I found that those times I was most prone to start to backslide in my faith. I eventually caught on and stopped listening to secular music altogether.  Steer clear as much as you can.  Guard your heart and mind.

 

Renew your mind-

 

Romans 13:14  Instead, clothe yourself with the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. And don’t let yourself think about ways to indulge your evil desires.

 

Speaking of the mind, something that the Holy Spirit has been really leading me to do is to renew my mind.  This has been so IMPORTANT.  The Bible tells us to renew our minds.  I never really understood that until I purposely began to think of my thoughts.  Joyce Meyer says think about what you think about!  It's true.  We can't just let any thought invade our mind.  Satan is constantly trying to bombard us with thoughts of fear and if we struggle with SSA, with lustful thoughts.  Be aware.  To replace old thinking, we MUST read the Bible and begin to have our mind washed by the word of God and changed.

Great resources to read besides the Bible are Joyce Meyer Battlefield of the Mind and Kyle Winkler's Silence Satan. 

 

These are but a few tips on keeping yourself on the right track and on your way to victory. As you can see guarding your HEART AND MIND are vital in this battle.  I'll be sharing more and adding to this page, so check back. 

 

Don't forget, the Holy Spirit will guide you personally and show you what you need to do.  God knows you personally because He created you and LOVES YOU so He knows how to lead you to your victory in Jesus Christ.

 

John 8:36  So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.